<-- test --!> The 24 Best BDSM Toys to Kink Up Your Bedroom – Best Reviews By Consumers
The 24 Best BDSM Toys to Kink Up Your Bedroom

The 24 Best BDSM Toys to Kink Up Your Bedroom

news image

bdsm sex toys

If you’re into BDSM, there’s an infinite number of ways to incorporate sex toys into your kinky bedroom routine. You can totally use mainstream sex toys, like vibrators, cock rings, and anal plugs. (Think: using a vibrator on your partner as you practice orgasm denial, or “punishing” your submissive partner by having them wear a butt plug out to dinner.) But then there are toys specifically designed for BDSM—an umbrella term that stands for Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism, and Masochism—which is what we’re here to talk about today.

BDSM fans seeking a more intense sex session may way specific toys and devices to help set a scene involving Dominance, submission, bondage, pain, humiliation, role play, and/or other kinky activities. On this list, you’ll find BDSM toys ranging from mainstream—or, as “mainstream” as a BDSM toy can get—to niche products for experienced kinksters. Cuffs (for restraining someone) and floggers (for impact play) are among the more common BDSM sex toys you’ll find on this list, but you’ll also explore some next-level items like anal hooks, metal claws, an electrostimulation wand, and an alien breeder dildo. Some of these sex toys aren’t for the faint of heart, but they can be a whole lot of fun if used safely and correctly.

If all this BDSM stuff is brand new to you, first of all: Congrats on taking the first step to indulging your kinky curiosity. BTW, you’re not alone in wanting to try it. BDSM is the most-fantasized kink in America, with 93% of men and 96% of women having fantasized about it before, according to research by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., Kinsey Institute researcher and member of the Men’s Health Advisory Panel.

“When you start to understand how common some of these sexual interests are, it can help lead to self-acceptance,” Lehmiller says in Men’s Health Best. Sex. Ever. “And self-acceptance is the first step to get over any shame you may feel regarding your kinky desires.”

BDSM newbies (and anyone who could use a refresher) should also check out our guides to BDSM terms and what to know about sexual aftercare. BDSM requires a lot of trust, clear boundary-setting, and safety precautions. Before playing, you should read how to engage in BDSM safely, so both you and your partner(s) have a great time.

The Best BDSM Toys

1

Best Sex Toy for Temperature Play

The Hot & Cold

Some really do like it hot. Mix and match temperatures with 10 vibration settings to experience 32 different internal and external sensations. Temperature play is especially fun for the receiver when hot and cold are combined in unpredictable patterns. Combine with bondage or blindfolding for an added rush of arousal.

2

Best Bondage Tape

Tether Tape

If you’re looking for an alternative to rope, cuffs, and keys, bondage tape is a super sexy and easy to use restraint. Bind the ankles, wraps the wrists, or use it as a blindfold, this PVC tape sticks only to itself. Keep safety scissors nearby, a must when doing any kind of rope or bondage play.

3

Best Massage Candle

Afterglow Massage Oil Candle

The santal in this candle smells intoxicatingly delicious (think smokey leather, sandalwood, lemon and cardamom), and when the warm oil hits your or your partner’s body, it feels divine. This candle multitasks as a pretty bedside addition or massage must-have. Bonus: It burns up to 32 hours.

4

Best BDSM Book

101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do

Whether you’re a curious pleasure-seeker or wanting to expand your kink horizons, this quick read by sex blogger and podcaster Kate Sloan is packed with 101 detailed kink ideas. From spanking and sensory deprivation to urethral sounding to erotic hypnosis, Sloan makes kink accessible in this gorgeously illustrated book.

5

Best Small Bondage Kit

Beginner Kink Kit

If you’re new to bondage, but don’t know where to start, this kit has everything you need to baby step into the world of kink. From a blindfold and nipple suckers, to a plastic pinwheel and quickie cuffs, this hand-picked selection of kink toys are bestsellers for good reason.

6

Best Spreader Bar

Adjustable Leg Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs

Spreader bars are easy to use, and enable many, ummm, exposed and accessible positions. This bar adjusts from 24” to 36” making it accessible for a variety of bodies. It comes with leather cuffs, to keep wrists and ankles comfy. Keep an eye on the person wearing the bar’s limbs for fatigue.

7

Best Bed Restraint System

Twilight Bed Restraint System

This heavy-duty restraining system fits under your mattress and provides eight points of contact for all kinds of kinky scenarios. Made from seatbelt nylon, it’s super sturdy, versatile, and allows for easy mid-play positioning.

8

Best E-Stim Wand

The Stinger Electro Play Wand

“E-stim,” or “electro sex,” as it’s more casually known, tends to focus on providing electrical stimulation to the penis, scrotum, clitoris, and vagina. The cattle-prod style Stinger Electro Play Wand imparts light to moderate zap and stings, perfect for teasing, tickling, and training. It should be noted that any use of electricity has a risk of danger. Please practice e-stim with extreme caution.

9

Best Bondage Rope

Electro-Conductive Rope

Since 2004, Twisted Monk rope has set the gold standard for bondage rope. Ropes is ethically sourced and hand-dyed and conditioned. Their bamboo or raw silk electro-conductive ropes are spun with a copper-free mylar-free conductive fiber, which work well with Violet Wands and electro-stimulation control boxes. Bonus: If you have to cut your rope, Twisted Monk will replace it.

10

Best Feather Tickler

Vibrating Feather Tickler

If you have a tickling fetish, you’re into knismolagnia. The cool thing about this fetish is that it can be done to oneself or someone else. Sleek and versatile, this vibrating feather has five different setting to tease nipples, a penis, vulva, or clitoris. Bonus: It’s fully waterproof for bath and shower fun.

11

Best Nipple Pegs

Nipple Pegs: Too Much

Some nipple clamps are quick to fall off. These heavy, clothespin-style clips will inflict an intense amount of pain (and pleasure!) without going anywhere.

12

Best Anal Hook

The Original Ass Hook

If you like butt plugs or dildos, take play to the next level with an ass hook. Anal hooks go inside your anus and then connect to an object or another part of your body with rope. (It can also be used in the vagina as a G-spot toy.) Warm it up or cool it down for temperature play. Or tie a wand vibrator to the rod to make it extra intense.

13

Best Impact Sex Toy

Premium Dragontail

A souped-up Italian leather version of a snapping towel, the Premium Dragontail, arrives with a training DVD to teach owners how to wield it eight different ways. Guaranteed to last a lifetime, this BDSM beauty can impact from 15 mph to 800 mph. So basically, this sex toy can both break the sound barrier and bring a world of pain to your body.

14

Best Flogger

Deluxe Leather Flogger

We can’t have a list of BDSM toys without suggesting at least one leather flogger. This one won’t break the bank but still will absolutely get the job done. (Remember, it’s all in the wrist.)

15

Best Sensation Sex Toy

Stainless Steel Wartenberg Pinwheel

Whether you use it for BDSM fun or medical fetish play, the 22 pins on this tool will send shivers throughout your partner’s body. Although the toy may look sharp and scary, pressure can be adjusted to create mild to more intense pain.

16

Best Magnetic Nipple Clamps

Magnus Magnetic Orbs

“Unlike traditional nipple or clitoral clamps, these two magnets (small or XL) can be placed anywhere on the body between the flesh!” says Taylor Sparks, erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven. “Because they are magnets they will continually add pressure as they attempt to ‘come together.’ How much pressure you can take will be up to you.”

17

Best Gag Bar

Bit Silicone Gag Bar

Instead of a ball, this gag-centric sex toy is designed like a sleek and accessible ‘bit.’ Perfect for pony play, it’s more comfortable than its round sibling since users bite down. Plus, it doesn’t go behind the teeth, making it a better choice for people with jaw issues or new to gagging.

“Many people enjoy the feeling of being gagged but ball-gags can be intimating and too taboo for some,” says Kenneth Play, founder of the Sex Hacker Pro series and author of Beyond Satisfied. “This sleek and accessible little ‘bit’ helps dip a toe into gagging without shame.”

18

Best Drool Gag

Drool Gag Glitter

If the thought of lots of drool, spit, and saliva, turns you on, the Glitter Drool Gag is for you. This sparkly sex toy is shaped to produce more saliva than your standard issue ball gag. If you want to make an even bigger mess, put honey on the ball gag. Or, for a sadistic twist, try Szechuan peppercorns.

19

Best Ball Gag

Faux Leather Silicone Ball Gag

If a traditional ball gag is more your speed, we recommend this silicone option. It’s inexpensive but still has a high-quality feel.

20

Best Cuffs

Bondage Cuffs

“This is a well-priced set of bondage cuffs that give you a luxurious feel,” Play says. “A good set of leather-like cuffs can elevate your BDSM play with a seamless experience and extra comfort.”

21

Best Tentacle Toy

Tentacle Textured Glass Dildo

This glass dildo in the shape of a tentacle is definitely kinky. If you are your partner is into Hentai, you understand the appeal to this bad boy.

22

Best Sex Machine

Motorbunny Original

Akin to riding a mechanical bull, except with a thrusting phallus and no risk of being bucked, the Motorbunny is an unsuspecting BDSM sex toy. Hand the remote to a partner and let them control every thrust and vibration. Or, set up a DIY spit-roast with a partner and a realistic silicone penis. Hello, gagging fetish! Long-distance partners can buy the LINK Bluetooth & Internet Controller ($199) for sexy, virtual “buzz” and “twirl” play.

23

Best Large Bondage Kit

Take Control Bondage Kit

If you want the biggest bang for your buck, then we recommend the Take Control Bondage Kit. It has everything a beginner could need: a strap on dildo, cuffs, ball gag, flogger, eye mask, and more!

24

Best Xenomorph Dildo

Alien Breeder Dildo

The term xenomorph is a mix of the Greek xeno- and -morph, which translates to “other shape” or “strange shape.” An interest in alien fetish is on the rise, and the Alien Breeder Dildo will give your hole(s) a solid stretch.


Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based writer, speaker, and activist whose work focuses on lifestyle, sexuality, culture, and entertainment.


Ryn Pfeuffer is a queer sex and relationships writer, and over the past two decades, her work has appeared in more than 100 media outlets including Marie Claire, Playboy, Refinery29, Shape, The Globe and Mail, The Washington Post, and WIRED.

This content is created and maintained by a third party, and imported onto this page to help users provide their email addresses. You may be able to find more information about this and similar content at piano.io

Read More